My Dear Mother

My mum and I on a cruise holiday
Hi all, some of you that follow me were probably expecting my next Italy travel post. Well sadly, my dear mother had a massive stroke a month ago and was found after 4 days alone in her apartment. She is now stable but I had to move her into a nursing home. She now can’t speak, half her body is numb and she can’t eat properly. She will never walk again, or possibly talk again. Not a way to live! It’s been such a terrible time. Understandably, I have not had the heart, energy, enthusiasm or free time to do anything creative or fun.
My mother just recently renewed her passport before her stroke as she wanted me to take her on another cruise. I can only feel lucky that I did take some time to see her for lunch the day I feel she must have had the stroke.
So just a little reminder to live your life as best you can, enjoy, do things, have holidays, don’t go without, enjoy as you just don’t know what can happen in the blink of an eye!
Once I have things under control with my mother’s estate sale and so on, I hope to find a little time for myself again to live my own dreams.
Here are a couple of photos of my beautiful mother. She was a challenge at times but she always loved her children and would help us in any way she could.
I’ll be keeping your family in my prayers.
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Thank you xx
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Yeah, mum had a room on her own but it was very small so we used to take her out in the park across the road. Being outside always seemed to make her happy.
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Yes that’s my plan next visit wheel her out to a garden
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Oh Wendy, I’m so incredibly sorry to hear about your mum. I can very much understand what you’re going through as I went through something very similar with my own mum a few years ago. Sending you lots of love and keeping you both in my prayers. xx
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Thanks for your beautiful message xxx
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You’re welcome. Tough and sad times for you right now I’m sure, but it’s amazing what we can get through. xx
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It’s so hard seeing mum trapped in her body. She can move her left hand and feed slowly but can’t swallow well so all food is thickened even water 😦 the worst part is she can’t walk or talk. I see her frustration trying to speak but only a whisper
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Oh Wendy, I do understand. Mum was the same. It used to break my heart knowing she couldn’t communicate with me but could understand me. Just be there with her, talk to her and hold her hand. Touch is so important.
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Yes she’s always squeezing my hand rubbing my arm and kissing me. She tries to comfort me I think . It’s so hard. I got her a shared room of 4 in a row but they all look out over Manly Beach. It’s a high rise nursing home on a hill so it’s got a lovely view at least
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Oh Wendy what sad news. Your Mum is in the right place now getting the right care. Hopefully this hasn’t been too traumatic for you and the family as it can often those around as much as the person involved. Our thoughts are with you and you Mum.
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Thanks Jonno it’s been pretty horrible and I have so much to sort out. Lucky I’ve been a strong person all my life. 🙂
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Keep strong then Wendy.
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I’m so sorry, I’ll keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.
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Thank you xx
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Dear Wendy
I always enjoy reading your posts and am sorry to hear what has been happening in your life.. Please accept my best wishes for your mother, you and your family. We never know what our future will hold, your words to live each day well are so true. Kindest regards Suzanne
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Thanks for your lovely message Suzanne x
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